Mother’s Day makes us all a little more conscious of the care and
sacrifice our moms made while we were young. Today, many adult children
find their roles reversed — they now must provide care and assistance
for their ailing or elderly moms.
Caring for an elderly parent is a common activity for many adult kids.
In fact, polling company Gallup says more than
70 percent of adults are caring for an elderly parent, most of whom are 75 years of age or older. Many of those caregivers are
also holding down jobs, a combination that can become stressful and isolating
over time. If you’re one of those adult children tasked with providing
care for your elderly mom or dad, here are four important tips to help you cope:
Talk to your employer. Letting your employer know about your obligations helps him or her understand
why you may need a day off or call in late on occasion. By being upfront
about your needs and constraints, you can hopefully avoid serious repercussions
for your career.
Find out about family leave. If your parent is especially ill, ask about paid leave options that could
allow you to take some time off to provide care without straining your
finances or risking your position.
Look into daycare and in-home care options. Even if you provide most of your parent’s care, there are times
when you could use a helping hand or take a break. Medicare Parts A and
B offer provisions for some types of home care; they can also provide
limited coverage for medically-required adult daycare. You may also be
able to tap community resources for help.
Get support. Connecting with other people in your situation can be a powerful tool
in helping you cope and avoiding stress and depression. To find a support
group near you, contact your area office on aging, or visit the
Eldercare Locator website, a service of the U.S. Administration on Aging.
Do you suspect that your mother or some other relative was hurt by bad
care? Our D.C. medical malpractice attorneys provide free consultations
for injury victims and their families.
Suspect that your mother or father (or other loved one) hasn't been
treated fairly? Read:
DC Nursing Homes: How to Report Abuse or Neglect.